Are You Trying to Change Your Partner's View of You?

There's often an upside to your non collaborative position that's scary to let go of. I think a real obstacle is shifting in your own view of yourself. It's easier to resent your spouse fornot valuing you, than to value yourself enough to stand up for something that needs to be addressed. i feel like martyrdom as woman tends to be like this weird upside like it's almost twisted upside maye because we're used to it and stying safe in it.