Ep253 - Laura Heck | The Science of Great Relationships
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What Are the Areas of Flexibility?
The goal is wanting to compromise with your partner. But if you indicate what areas it is that if you were to yield on, it would feel as if you were breaking your own bones. The masters figured out that in order to overcome gridlock in relationships, you have to suspend the desire to solve that problem and see from your partner's perspective. We call this empathy. So one of the things that couples can do is that can sit on opposite sides of the couch, and you can say, i understand that we're pretty gridlocked on this issue. Anne, i'm willing to hear your perspective. In every argument and disagreement, there are two perspectives. Both of them are correct.
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