Let the Trigger Be Your Entry Point Into Presence

The outer reality is a reflection of the inner emotional state. If you felt abandoned emotionally or physically as a kid between zero and seven, you may continue to create the experience of choosing people that are emotionally unavailable. At the very core of a nice guy or a people pleaser is an immense amount of rage for people that maybe abandoned them. Grief is the thing that you're avoiding by holding on to the attachment.