What not to do is often the best guide and you don't want to fall into the incredibly common spiral discussed in this episode. We incrementally fall into bad habits that creep up on us and just when we have the option to do something we instead blame everything else.

Learn how to build mental strength and resilience and escape the trap of victimization and depression.

This episode features the writing from the adventurer and philosopher Alastair Humphreys, his post "The Three Stages of Flabiness" from the book "There are Other Rivers"

On the growth mindset podcast with Sam Webster Harris, we explore the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Success and happiness is a state of mind unique to ourselves and is our responsibility to create.

Through a process of honest self-reflection of what is holding us back and what is driving us forward, we can lose the ego and build awareness of how to be the best we can be.

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Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement

Episode: Ruin your life in 4 steps

Chapters

• 00:00 Excellence is a habit
• 00:58 How we slide out of good habits
• 01:47 Alastair Humphreys: 3 Stages of Flabbiness
• 02:07 1st Stage: Conquer Physical Flabbiness
• 03:03 2nd Stage: Escape the Grip of Mental Flabbiness
• 03:46 3rd Stage: Battling Moral Flabbiness
• 05:00 Adventure Awaits
• 05:40 Alastair Humphreys: "There Are Other Rivers"
• 06:00 Embrace Imperfections In Your Life
• 06:36 Victim mentality
• 07:36 Take Control of Your Life 
• 08:56 Rewire for Success: Transform Your Mindset
• 10:02 Mental Reshaping: Beyond Your Comfort Zone
• 11:59 Small Good Habits As Fuel For Growth 
• 12:13 Build The life You Want To Have
• 12:42 Send Off

Topics

Victim mentality

Positive psychology

Growth mindset

Alastair Humphreys

3 stages of flabbiness

Building Ownership and Responsibility

Mental resilience

Building good habits

Atomic habits

Physical exercise

Mental exercise

Morality and lies

Understanding the ego

Blaming society

Blaming childhood

Personal growth

Victimhood

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