I thinktit feels to me if, if i'm hearing you correctly, it's about discernment, and

it's about undestanding and kind of choosing your battles in a certain regard like honor as your own capacity in this moment. Goodness knows that, you know, outside of a what's happening globally, what's happening for people person, whether they've got a health challenge, like you said, theyre going through a divorce, there's something really challenging happening in their own life, with their career, or their family or themselves. I i think it is really important for people to hear that when you are in that depleted state, it is ok, and it does not make you a bad person to say, i am not engaging in this, like, grazer

yourself an always aa, like, cut yourself slack. You no, just cut yourself some slack. You're doing the bestt you can in the situation. And and i think that that's, you know, that's important. And i also think i was talking before about, people are doing the best they can. Yes, i understand that people, i have a lot in the book about brain science, like really understanding how people's brains just want to keep them safe. And so people will find information, they'll gravitate towards ation that makes them feel safe. So that person that you're arguing with, you know, they're looking for the monster they're looking for the bad guide. They they need that to feel safe, especially people who have unintegrated trama. And so and that was something i really struggled with. And until i did the work of integrating my trama, i just couldn't, my brain wouldn't let me. It just immediately went to what made me feel safe, was sorting people into good and bad baskets. Because then i was like, well, i know now. I know where the good people are and the bad people are. So recognize the person you're talking to might be doing that. And it's totally unconscious, like they have no idea. I had no idea i was doing it. Well, i think too, like i'm a person, as a coach kerson, who always tries to bring it back

to myself, fright?