For seven or so years, i've been struggling with depression. I took a gap year from my ph d Programme to just try to feel pleasure in anything. Spleasure was what i was searching for. And now that i think i'm able to experience some of that, like, i think i slowly healed over that time where i just focused on self careUm, then i worry about being a bit hedonistic. If i go too far with any form of pleasure, then what if i don't attend to my responsibilities or spend all my money? So i am trying to dis calebrate that.
In 2019, Brenda took a year off from their PhD program to try to feel pleasure again…with anything. Brenda has come a long way since then but there’s one thing that’s still elusive—they’ve never experienced an orgasm. Whenever they try, anxiety kicks in and they’re left feeling frustrated and, in their words “broken.” On this episode of How To!, we bring in Ev’Yan Whitney, sex educator, author, and host of the podcast Sensual Self. Ev’Yan has some wonderful wisdom for learning about your body and reconnecting with pleasure, both sexual and non-sexual, in a way that feels safe.
Additional Reading:
The Tyranny Of the Female-Orgasm Industrial Complex by Katharine Smyth
Ace by Angela Chen
Sensual Self by Ev’Yan Whitney
Understanding Asexuality by The Trevor Project
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