The 37% rule from algorithms to live by, which is just that you're supposed to spend if you wanted to truly optimize your pursuit. This could be with many other things like what restaurant to go to on your trip somewhere. You can explore for 37% of the time. So you just go and see what's out there see what you like. And then after the 37% you go exploit. The first encounter you have with someone in this case, who is equal to or better than your encounters during that 37% explore period. That means you would be really ready to settle down or at least pursue that relationship seriously.