Speaker 2
a concept that I bro-scienced into existence called anxiety cost. So you understand opportunity cost, right? That by doing one thing, you can't do another. Anxiety cost to me is the amount of time that you spend thinking about an unclosed loop. So that is a cost that you could have fixed had you have just done the thing. Had I have gone up and spoken to Tim Ferriss, it would have taken me 20 seconds to walk across the room, 10 seconds to speak to him, 30 seconds total time investment, as opposed to probably hours that I've reflected on that situation. Or the same thing that I need to go to the gym today. If you go to the gym in the morning, that means that for the rest of the day, you can bathe in your self-congratulatory adulation and feel all prestigious because you went to the gym earlier as opposed to leaving it until 8 p.m and you spend all of the day thinking to yourself I gotta go to the gym I gotta go to the gym I gotta go to the gym and yeah I think that trying to limit that by just putting yourself into situations is such an easier way to do that. And remembering the pain of unfulfilled what ifs is way worse than the pain of rejection. For no matter how introverted you are, that's a pretty big motivator.
Speaker 1
Absolutely. And I love the way you frame that. I think that's a very quotable sentence right there. What
Speaker 2
about different types of serendipity? There must be different categories of some kind. Yeah. Well, it's interesting because
Speaker 1
in a way, when you think about what is serendipity all about, it's a lot of times there's three different types that we found in our work. that you're saying you're already looking for something. Let's say you're looking for a job at, you know, X, Y, Z consultancy. And then you coincidentally run into someone that you didn't expect could even help you with this and they get you that job. So in a way, you already knew what you wanted, but you find a very kind of unexpected way to get there. I mean, you know, the quintessential example, there's Archimedes who, you know, he for his for his king, he tried to figure out like, is that crown real gold? Or did someone kind of, you know, mess with a king? And so he didn't find the solution to this. And so he went, you know, chilled out in the baths, right? The kind of, in a way, the old version of the of the sauna, it seems like good things happen there, right? That's fantastic. And so he went to the he went to the bath and he lowered himself into the water. And he realized, oh, wow, like, the water will be pushed differently depending on the weight of something. And so essentially, if I do that with a crown, I can I can figure out if that is real gold. And so he he already knew what he would what he wanted to do, but he found an unexpected way to solve that. That's the first piece. The second piece is really when you kind of like you're not looking for anything. right and then boom thunderbolt happens and you know you sit in that coffee shop you weren't looking for love but you instantly know that is the person and then you know it kind of like happens in that moment and develops from there so it's kind of you're not looking for anything but it happens and then the third piece is really more the kind of post-it notes type serendipity where you're looking for something maybe you're looking for a job in consulting and then you get that job and you realize, oh, I actually don't really want it. But on the way, you realize, you know, one of the people who interviewed you could be an amazing co-founder for your business. And so you start something completely different. So you look for something, but then you find something completely different in the process, like post-it notes. Right. They look for a stronger glue, but then realized, oh, wow a weaker glue might be might be much cooler than than that and so the point is what they all have in common is there's always some kind of unexpected moment right something that that happens but then again we have to do something and connect the dots and and and act on it one
Speaker 2
of the problems that i had was with people who say things happen for a reason so they look back after some catastrophe that they've gone through and they say, well, yeah, but this, this happened for a reason.
