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How our false expectations and misunderstandings about relationships can create an incalculable amount of suffering — and the many problems of the "You complete me" model.

Description:

This episode was part one of our four-part series where we're counter-programming against the way Valentine's Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family.

Today's guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine's Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships.

Myisha Battle is the author of the book, "This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between." She also hosts the podcast How's Your Sex Life? Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships.

Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex.

In this episode we talk about:

Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnership
The nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful ways
Understanding men's and women's cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationships
The myth of finding "the one"
The orgasm gap
Bromance
And if you're looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easier

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-archive

Where to find Myisha Battle online:

Website: www.myishabattle.com/

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Book Mentioned:

This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between

Other Resources Mentioned:

Alain de Botton's Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
The School of Life
#418. How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman
#213: Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel
#464. How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther Perel
Half the World Has a Clitoris. Why Don't Doctors Study It?
Michael Vincent Miller's Intimate Terrorism
Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity

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