Gap Thinking vs. Gratitude

In this episode, I’m sharing why the most overlooked leadership skill for high-level women right now isn’t discipline, hustle, or having the perfect plan—it’s the ability to pause without spiraling. I talk about why January creates so much nervous system dysregulation, how comparison turns us into “gap thinkers,” and why most women aren’t behind at all—they’re just measuring their lives with the wrong ruler. This conversation is a reminder that clarity doesn’t come from pushing harder, but from creating space to actually hear yourself again.

I also open up about how pausing has transformed the way I steward my business, my voice, and my identity—especially after a profound personal experience that reshaped how I understand safety, leadership, and provision. I talk about why learning to hold the process matters more than chasing the outcome, why trying to be everything to everyone creates exhaustion, and how true influence comes from honoring your specific lane and genius. This episode is an invitation to slow down, release control, and trust that what you’re preparing for in the pause is what allows the harvest to come.

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KEY POINTS: 

00:00 Welcome to Woman of Influence

00:49 The Bedroom Floor Sessions

01:38 Embracing Imperfection and Adaptability

04:25 The Power of the Pause

08:11 Gratitude vs. Comparison

14:55 The Year of Harvest

19:03 Stewardship and Leadership

24:35 Activating Your True Voice

31:08 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

QUOTABLES:

“  I just want you to hear me clearly with this. You do not need to sprint into the new year. You do not need to prove January. You do not need to panic plan. You do not need to aggressively map out your entire year in a week like your life depends on it. You don't have to have the perfect setup or the perfect studio, or the perfect launch or whatever thing that you're making up and telling yourself that you need in order to make something great because most women  don't enter the new year with a strategy problem. Most women enter the new year with nervous system dysregulation.” - Julie Solomon 

“ It's not to say that goals are bad. It's not to say that measuring how far we've come to where we wanna be is bad. It's just that a lot of women are measuring their lives with a ruler that was never meant to measure their actual progress, their actual success. And that's the thing most women are not behind. They're just measuring with the wrong ruler, and you cannot build a powerful year from some distorted measuring stick.”  - Julie Solomon

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FROM THIS EPISODE:

Learn how “gap thinking” can block you from fully experiencing gratitude. Read The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

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