Both you and i are so good at decoding what somebody actually means that we actually do benefit from like layers of soft padding yeah before you get to the truth. If you say something really gentle with a lot of disclaimers i'm gonna know like okay oh he really means oh this is really seriousYeah he means that he and then i'm also gonna feel loved by your effort to be gentle about it Yeah  i'm gonna know what you really mean underneath all of it..."If i had to give one relationship tip it would be find somebody who communicates the same way that you do it just the way that makes you feel okay," she says.