Belonging versus fitting in

Brené distinguishes true belonging from fitting in and emphasizes standing alone to avoid betraying oneself.

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No.1 vulnerability expert BRENÉ BROWN exposes how shame, fear, and perfectionism secretly control your life - and reveals proven ways to unlock courage, confidence, trust, connection, and joy.

Brené Brown is a world-renowned research professor who has spent over two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. She is also the author of 6 #1 New York Times bestsellers, including her recently published book, ‘Strong Ground’, and hosts two award-winning podcasts on leadership and human connection.

She explains:

◼️The marble jar theory that changed how Fortune 100 companies build trust

◼️The 4 skill sets of courage you can train and measure

◼️Why fitting in is the greatest threat to true belonging

◼️How to identify your “armor” when you're afraid and drop it

◼️The gratitude practice that stops catastrophising in real-time

(00:00) Intro
(02:34) What Made Brené Who She Is?
(07:23) Parents Affecting Your View of Love
(10:48) 87 Human Emotions
(11:50) Why Did Brené Struggle With Self-Love and Belonging?
(15:36) How Has the World Changed in the Last Two Decades?
(16:23) Is Power Driven by Fear?
(19:51) Four Types of Power: How to Be Successful as a Leader
(22:54) Systems Theory
(26:48) The Role of AI and Social Media in Shaping Society
(34:39) Wisdom From Psychology and Life Experience
(41:26) What Type of Connection Should People Be Looking For?
(44:34) Belonging vs. Standing Alone
(47:43) Making a Divisive Podcast
(54:07) Pros and Cons of Curiosity
(54:50) Responsibility of a Platform to Assess Guest Credibility
(1:03:34) Ads
(1:04:32) Importance of Vulnerability
(1:09:30) Managing Fear of Vulnerability
(1:18:36) Overcoming Negative Traits
(1:21:06) Improving Self-Esteem
(1:25:43) Four Steps to Courage
(1:27:44) Building Trust With the Marble Jar Theory
(1:32:47) Leaders' Misconceptions of Trust
(1:35:05) Cheating
(1:36:03) Ads
(1:38:11) Relationship Advice
(1:41:42) Losing Your Mother to Dementia
(1:45:27) How Did You Deal With Grief?
(1:48:40) What Are You Optimizing for Right Now?