A study done by social psychologist Margaret Shee about Asian women taking their lives is an extraordinary example of how identities show up in the way we behave. As you point out, we each have this kind of range of identities, right, and different kind of lenses on ourselves. And these different selves that evoked can kind of change our behavior.
You are not autonomous. You are not an island unto yourself. You, my friend, are a social construct. The “self” you haul around — that yammering voice in your head — was entirely shaped by your relationships and social interactions. That may be upsetting for "you" to hear. But our guest today, Brian Lowery, prefers to see it as pleasantly humbling because if you can learn to let go of the idea that you have an essential self, you can embrace a more expansive view of who you are and who you can be.
Brian Lowery is a professor of organizational behavior at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. His new book is “Selfless: The Social Creation of ‘You.’”
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