In the basic issue with garmas we try to run away from the consequences of our actions. And in doing so, we we sign ourselves up for tons of consequences. The only solution is to tell your girl friend, be authentic, honest, face the carmic consequences that you're facing. When you face those consequences, you will be surprised at what you find. It's possible to be the best version of yourself when things are easy. That is not the best part of you. Who are heroes? Theyre historically people who are faced with adversity and write about how they overcame it.