The Art of Compliments | 5min snip from Bitch Sesh: A Real Housewives Breakdown

Speaker 4
You sold that. You really i was like wow but you guys now i'm scared because jess has told me some
Speaker 1
of my scripts are very good she
Speaker 2
also compliments me all the time and i take them to heart and now
Speaker 1
me too and now i'm scared it's a very tough rule in the book and i don't mean to you know hope jess has done this any of you but she's like if someone's wearing something that's so bad you actually know they've taken such pains. They love it. If they're wearing like the most insane outfit, you're going right to
Speaker 4
it. But is this like Regina George and Mean Girls where she compliments that girl's bracelet and then, you know what I mean? No, you're just going, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1
that dress. Because Jess, it's a kindness. It's like, if you are ballsy enough to wear that, you love it.
Speaker 3
Yeah. And I'm, I, I'm not doing it to make fun of them. I'm literally doing it to make them feel good because making them feel good makes me feel good. I see. I see. But if someone, there was a woman wearing sneakers that looked like a Muppet, a dead Muppet fur had made these sneakers. And I said, boy, oh, boy, are those great sneakers. Where can I get them? I'm pulling up links. And we got off the elevator and BB goes, did you really like those sneakers? And I said, no, it looked like a dead Muppet made those. I go, but didn't that make her day? Yeah.
Speaker 2
Wow. Well, I don't know what this gets a little bit of a huh. Yeah,
Speaker 1
this gets a little bit of a huh. Oh, I'm right there, too, Jess. I'm looking up Amazon. Do they have it in Medium? Putting it in the cart in front of them? But here's... But let me ask you this. Because I do appreciate...
Speaker 4
And I say this with love, but I appreciate sincerity. You know what I mean? Which is like... Authenticity, which is like... I don't. I think everybody's like, be your authentic self. Don't. No. I don't advise that. But I also don't... If you you don't love what I'm wearing, Jess, I don't want you to tell me you love what I'm wearing. Again, with different friends, it's different. But if you're on the elevator and you're
Speaker 1
wearing something, you've taken a wild swing. That means a lot. You've taken a swing. Give a little like, oh, I love that. We did see a person with a brooch, Jess, and you complimented their brooch. Did you not like their brooch? You're finding the thing that stands out and often it's standing out because it's so bad. I probably didn't like their brooch. Remember at the goop store? You said you liked that
Speaker 3
woman's brooch. See, I have no memory. You said broaches are back. You're never going to see me with the brooch. I'm not a fucking psychopath. That's crazy. Listen, I am.
Speaker 2
I have to say as your friends, like you guys have revealed a of your tactics and a lot of your, like, high-level strategies and, you know, the ammunition you carry out there. And it is going to be interesting. I almost want, like, a follow-up interview to find out, like, now that we're books coming out, audiobooks coming out, we're releasing you into the world. How does this change things for you to if people
Speaker 1
have read? It's going to be we're going to be mobbed. You know, it's going to be hard to
Speaker 2
go out when they hear our voice at a Starbucks. I just wonder. Yeah. People are going to really try to like match or one up or not
Speaker 3
let you go. I mean, it's a little bit. I mean, I think we're we've been training for this our whole lives. You
Speaker 4
really have been. This is the culmination of like a natural talent meeting the moment. Yeah, that's right. Last
Speaker 1
thing. I just want to give everyone a little piece of homework. It's one line. Just try it. OK, it's but one line. What are you giving us? You giving us the basic? I would like to give if you're in you're in like a Marshalls or Target. OK, You know, your Costco. You're just going to turn to the person next to you and say. I
Speaker 3
come in here for one thing and
Speaker 1
I leave with 10. Wonderful. And that's
Speaker 3
or can I say one more thing? If that one doesn't trip off, that's two feels too cheeky. You could just say notice something in their cart and say, now, have you tried this? Because I've been meaning to. That's
Speaker 4
the Trader Joe's technique. Wonderful.
Speaker 3
That's what I'd call that. Now, do you like that? Because if it's a chocolate covered whatever, they're the expert. But again, you know, again, we could just go on and on. Read the book. Read the book.
Speaker 1
Listen to the book. We've put in our 20,000 hours, Malcolm, our 10,000?
Speaker 3
I don't know at this point, 40,000? You
Speaker 1
guys have put in much more than 10,000. And Malcolm Gladwell says smoking really killed a lot of small talk. Okay. Wow. Yeah. Yeah. The ban on smoking. I was going to say smoking killed it or the ban on it? No, we used to have a natural pause. And a reason to get next to people that you might not otherwise. And it has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Built in. Wow. You can breathe easy knowing this is going to be three minutes. Though
Speaker 4
later you won't be able to breathe at all. Now
Speaker 1
don't be a debab. Debab, Danielle. Debab. Don't be a bummer. Debab, guys. You know what? Danielle and June, thank you for coming and being here with us and being our guests.
Speaker 2
My slot every week, but you're welcome. Well, you'll also be
Speaker 4
on the live show. I mean, your work is not done. I know. Can I just say I'm proud? I'm proud of you guys writing a book that people hear and writing a book that people in any form is so fucking hard. Writing a book is so fucking hard. That's why I've never done it. And it is really hard and it takes talent. It also just takes patience. It takes diligence. It is anyone who can just even put it out there. You're putting yourself out there. I'm so proud of you guys. So congratulations. I
Speaker 2
agree.

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