When you're dealing with whining, hitting, defiance, back talk…well, of course you want it to stop. But what if behavior change isn’t actually the place to start? Not for long-term behavior change, at least.
In this episode, I explore why behavior change does matter, but why it’s not the first goal, especially for kids with vulnerable nervous systems.
HEADS UP! I’m not necessarily asking YOU- the one facing these out of control behaviors- to change your goal of behavior change. But…what if the people who are helping you could stay focused on that truth?!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why all behavior makes sense—even the baffling kind
- What happens when we shift from changing behavior to addressing the nervous system
- How holding two truths at once helps you feel more regulated, even in hard moments
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Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/BehaviorChange
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