How do you come home to your body after trauma?
After childhood abuse…
after sexual violation…
after years of numbness, shutdown, or feeling like your body wasn’t even yours?
And once you do begin healing — how do you rebuild intimacy with a partner when old patterns have been running for decades?
In this deeply moving conversation, I’m joined by Dr. Laura Jergens, certified Somatica practitioner, intimacy coach, and survivor of childhood abuse and sexual trauma, who shares her courageous journey of reclaiming her body, her boundaries, and her pleasure.
Laura speaks candidly about:
• surviving homelessness and early sexual abuse
• dissociation and chronic genital numbness
• why talk therapy wasn’t enough
• learning to feel emotions in the body
• rebuilding safety through somatic embodiment
• how boundaries actually create intimacy
• healing sexual shame and people-pleasing
• genital de-armoring and restoring sensation
• and how she and her husband completely reinvented their sexual relationship after 20+ years together
Together we explore how somatic healing, relational repair, and slow, intentional touch can rewire the nervous system and restore access to pleasure.
Because healing isn’t just mental.
It’s cellular.
It’s relational.
It’s embodied.
And when the body finally feels safe… pleasure returns naturally.
If you’re navigating sexual trauma recovery, struggling with intimacy, or wanting to feel more alive and at home in your body, this episode offers both hope and practical tools.
You are not broken.
Your body remembers how to heal.
And pleasure is still possible.
In this episode, we explore:
• Somatic approaches to healing sexual trauma
• Processing emotions through the body
• Boundaries as self-care (not rejection)
• Reclaiming genital sensation after numbness
• How Somatica “relationship labs” work
• Practicing desire, voice, and consent in real time
• Couples intimacy resets and slow touch practices
• Removing goal-oriented sex and rebuilding from the ground up
• Why safety is the foundation of arousal
Resources
Dr. Laura Jergens – https://laurajurgens.com
More somatic sexuality teachings – rahichun.com
