How to Restore Yourself to a Calming State of Mind

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Sally Kohn: Some times we are too emotionally over-ropped to really do this process very well. And you recommend in times like that that we use what you call soothing behaviors to restore ourselves to calm. When do you know when that's a good idea and what are a couple of things that we might do that are soothing but not distracting? She says after we pop the hood, we're going to practice skill number two called self-validation because that's going to get you talking to yourself from breaking yourself apart into two parts if you will. So all the skills that I teach are designed to help you slowly build that voice.

Julie Simon is a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and certified personal trainer with over 30 years of experience in helping overeaters and imbalanced eaters mend their relationship with their feelings and ultimately themselves. She’s also the founder of the popular Los Angels based 12-week emotional eating recovery program.

Eric and Julie discuss her book, When Food is Comfort: Nurture Yourself Mindfully, Rewire Your Brain and End Emotional Eating.

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Julie Simon and I Discuss How to Manage Emotional Eating …

Her book, When Food is Comfort: Nurture Yourself Mindfully, Rewire Your Brain and End Emotional Eating.
The most common cause of emotional overeating is difficulty regulating our emotions, moods, thoughts, and behaviors
When we disconnect from our emotions, we don’t learn necessary skills to regulate
Attunement and attachment in early childhood that create neural pathways
When we’re under the influence of emotional part of the brain, we’re not capable of reasoning
The 7 skills involved in inner nurturing
The importance of exploring our emotions and bodily sensations
Our tendency to move away from unpleasant emotions by focusing on our thoughts
How emotions present in the body first (before we have words for them)
Real recovery is experiencing and moving through emotions
Learning to practice soothing behaviors to restore ourselves to calm
The goal is not to distract ourselves, but to calm ourselves enough to work on regulation skills
How self validation is not condoning the behavior, but acceptance and self compassion