We find it very difficult to resist super stimuli in the moment because they're more amusing to our mind. Social media is a far more dopamine inducing activity than talking to a friend on the phone. Anything that is novel releases dopamine in our brain. We don't really find calm to be a sexy thing. Calm is the capacity for excitement. It is not excitement in and of itself, but it leads us to have a capacity for focus,. For example, playing board game with loved ones even though that leads to presence. But when becoming present is the thing that allows us to make most progress so much as almost any other factor in our lives.