Is Attachment a Relational Process?

Bolby was one of the first systemic thinkers. He caught a lot of negative vibes from the psychoanalytic community because he was actually interested in observing interaction. If a child is difficult to soothe or temperamentally somewhat avoidant, and some kids are very highly arousal, this Jerome Kagan's work on the role of inborn attachment can be helpful. Some moms and fathers too, let's not forget about us, dads will have a hard time soothing a kid who's a bit colicky or you know, difficult or doesn't seem to want to connect. So it's not a one-way street here, the attachment relationship. It's very much bidirectional