Kim Kardashian: How to get better is paradoxically not by giving more feedback but by soliciting more feedback when you ask people to criticize you and you. She says that first of all come up with a go-to question, it has to be words that you can imagine yourself saying. "When you begin to invite criticism from others as though it is a gift that you value then when you give it you don't feel bad about giving it"
Kim Scott: Radical Candor
Kim Scott is a co-founder of Candor, Inc. She has been an advisor at Dropbox, Kurbo, Qualtrics, ReelGoodApp, Rolltape, Shyp, Twitter, and several other Silicon Valley companies. She is the author of the book Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss without Losing your Humanity*.
Key Points
Show you care at a personal level.
You can’t build a relationship that’s not personal.
In order to care personally for someone, you have to bring your whole self, not just your “business” persona.
Sometimes we get so focused on the work that we forget there’s actually a person doing the work.
Begin by soliciting feedback, not by giving it.
To get feedback, come up with a go-to question like “Is there anything I could do or stop doing that would make it easier to work with me?”
Resources Mentioned
Radical Candor* by Kim Scott
Radical Candor podcast
Book Notes
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