Is This a Serious Question?

I don't know a single person who's experienced infidelity who has not gone back and replayed every moment of their life to see what their role is in it. I just think, i think that this question is always for the benefit of the asker, and never for the person who is going through something very hard. It actually asks the person to betray this very sacred thing to them. Because just as real as the drama that ended my marriage was the very real things that were inextricably part of that. And so i think the reason that people ask this question is because they need a way to understand what happened to you in a way that can be digestible to them