Are You Trying to Beat Yourself Up to Feel Better?

Most of us are living with years and years of baggage of self loathing. And we think that if we can just get ourselves to be consistent, or finish this one thing, then we'll art feeling better. We waste a lot of time trying to beat ourselves into doing the things they say will make them feel better. It isn't working. Can we all just pause here and collectively acknowledge that this just isn't working?