i struggle to have one or two close, a guy friend. And it sort of breaks my heart that i see valery with her female friends and and finding that. For me, part of my maleness is a cave like feeling. It's, it can be a cut off. There are those same of cages and a borders around femininity but they're less of them. Sometimes people who are assigned female at birth are actually male. That's why they feel isolated in those things,. They want to go out and do that stuff, or they're trans, or they’re just not that, you know. The possibility that the world of women in a front row sea like