Marriage Isn't Your Thing

Live with someone before marrying them. A background of sexual experience doesn't make you an adulterer, nor is it the church's business. Learn to protect yourself emotionally and physically. Enjoy what you enjoy. If your eventual spouse isn't your first sexual partner, fine. You don't need a signed piece of paper to have family. Christians can't invalidate your house because it doesn't look like their own. Just move on and do your thing.