How Do You Respond to a Challenge?

Remember that how you respond to something is a habit. How did other people around you react to challenges, to losses, et cetera? That will also offer a clue as to why something is felt so acutely. If we're in the habit of always responding to something difficult with self criticism, then before we've even had a chance to consciously think about it, old self criticism will show up. So this is a matter of being mindful of those habits that you go to in these situations.