and multiple studies have shown that and that's that's actually one of the reasons that girls have higher emotional intelligence it's not that it is innate this has been shown over and over again girls are not innately more emotionally intelligent than boys it's just that the way that we talk to them we talk to

girls more than we talked to little boys with little boys we expect them to play physically with little girls we expect them to talk we expect them to play house right boys go outside and play soccer girls stay inside and play house right and i think that's that's where we need to realize that like for a lot of this we expect that the world that our sons will walk into will cater to them and as and in doing that we as their moms and dads we we we fail to give them adequate social skills because we assume that the world will cater to them and what that means is we assume that they will be able to take advantage of others doing the emotional work for them and that's a really hard way to say it but like this is like an these other things that i'm thinking about as a mother of a son doing this research so you're all getting a little bit of my my mind and and these kinds of things is makes you how can we in light of this understanding then raise the next generation of boys too to not expect to be able to take advantage of the emotional labor done by girls

yeah so let's let's put an image to this and this is a brutal one all right um and so excuse me for going like zero to sixty right away but uh gosh how long ago was it now ten years ago i think it was about ten

years because you were first year university so it must

have