Are we having fair expectations of the whole family as a group? Are we asking for unrealistic expectations of our children that we're not even asking of ourselves? You can't be asking them as children to do something that you are not doing as an adult. So i really ask parents to examine within themselves of like, are you yelling? Are you running away? Are you shutting down? And is that the behaviours that you want to see in your child? The repair work might be to shore up that attachment again and get back on to a common ground. It's very stick but that's how kids think. I'm a bad kitder.  I'm a good kid. That doesn