"I think that a cor thread of it is, as you said, accepting it for what it is and not over indexing too much. On the other side, using it as a guide, but not having it run your life," she says. "Once you know that thereis a variation, and some of it is more extreme than others, it can be so informative about understanding what it really is", he adds. 'It's such an important thing if you want to be as good of a human being as you want as possible'