Ambivalently Attached Adults - Are They Allergy to Hope?

Ambivalently attached adults make it their mission to settle old conflicts before they will consider moving forward. They know with certainty from within their body, what is to come from hope? And it is bad. It is terrifying for them to hope that the relationship will go well. When ambivalently attached people are in couples therapy, they will tend to assume that their partner is feeling or thinking or intending something that the partner really is not. The biological paradox of disorganized attachment: Our brains are wired to have an innate drive to move toward our mother when we are distressed.