The Gap Between Intent and Impact

i noticed the gap between intention and impact. i had a father who i'll usesome my own language. He was kind of a grumpy know it all, and he liked to tell people what to do. And so for some reason, i could see the difference between his behaviour and his intent. I made a focus on his intent, not his behaviour. That wasn't like a conscious decision i made as a child. I just kept seeing this. So that gap, to me, created an opening,. which is, like, where other people might have pulled away from him, i tended to stand up to him. It really worked.