Narcissism isn't self loveits it's a form of insecurity and self loathing. You create this character that you curate, that people adore, that people respect. And then you start spending your entire life curating that character. If it gets threatened, that's when you get weird. It seems like that wold cause your wholes a con ept of yourself to crumble. But if it does, find but what really happens is you are suddenly free to actually care about people for the first time,. "If you do have strength, or you have privileges, you can leverage them to pull poison out of the world"