Change Your Default Answer to Yes

We're kicking off a brand-new year with something many of you have asked for—the return of our live Q&A episodes. In this conversation, I'm joined once again by Uncle Joe as we answer real questions from men inside our community about parenting, connection with daughters, discipline, stoicism, faith, and leadership at home.

This episode goes deep. We talk about building trust with kids who feel distant, why saying "no" too often damages connection, how fathers can lead without demanding reciprocity, and the difference between white-knuckling life versus living from identity. If you're a dad who wants deeper relationships with your kids and clarity around leadership, faith, and emotional presence, this episode will challenge and ground you.

Timeline Summary

[0:00] Welcoming listeners to the 11th year of The Dad Edge Podcast.

[1:37] Reflection on longevity, gratitude, and why this work still matters.

[1:59] Announcement: Roommates to Soulmates eight-week course starting January 14.

[2:19] What men will learn in the Roommates to Soulmates marriage training.

[2:42] RSVP details for the January 7 preview call.

[3:07] Welcoming Uncle Joe back to the show.

[3:39] Listener question about connecting with daughters at different developmental stages.

[5:14] Joe shares his experience raising three daughters.

[6:33] Loving kids without expecting emotional reciprocation.

[7:16] Why trust—not control—is the foundation of fatherhood.

[8:08] Changing the default answer from "no" to "yes."

[9:19] Joe shares the powerful "father promise ring" moment with his daughter.

[10:41] Why fathers must make covenants to their kids—not demand them.

[12:26] Larry shares his struggle connecting with his youngest son.

[13:26] Letting kids lead connection through their interests.

[14:12] Hiking, martial arts, and intentional one-on-one time.

[15:19] Creating unique rituals with each child.

[16:03] Capturing small moments for deep emotional connection.

[18:12] Invitation to join the Dad Edge Alliance for live support and brotherhood.

[19:51] Listener question about stoicism and discipline.

[21:27] Larry explains why he moved away from stoicism.

[22:29] Joe breaks down the appeal—and danger—of half-truths in stoicism.

[24:07] White-knuckling life vs. living from identity.

[25:00] Faith, identity, and emotional regulation.

[27:28] Comparing stoicism with surrender and relationship-based leadership.

[29:05] Psalm 23 and why dependence beats self-mastery.

[31:30] Filtering wisdom through Scripture and lived experience.

[34:41] How suffering builds empathy and leadership capacity.

[35:19] Final thoughts, gratitude, and where to find resources.

Five Key Takeaways

1. Connection with kids is built through trust, consistency, and presence—not control.
2. Fathers must lead relationships without demanding emotional repayment.
3. White-knuckling discipline leads to exhaustion; identity-based leadership leads to peace.
4. Kids feel deeply seen when dads meet them inside their interests.
5. True strength comes from surrender, faith, and relational grounding—not self-reliance alone.

Links & Resources

• Dad Edge Mastermind & Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind
• Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates
• Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1423

Closing Remark

If this episode encouraged you, challenged your thinking, or gave you practical tools to lead better at home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. These conversations matter—and your support helps us reach more men who are committed to becoming better fathers, husbands, and leaders.