i realized i had to decide ahead of time what parts of me, or my story, or people at work's story that they had shared with me, that i was going to keep private. Like if i don't blab to all my secrets, then i'm like, oh, i'm hiding. But that is, in fact, not true. It is healthy to have boundaries,. So thinking in advance about legwers on those guard rails we're helping with the show. Andi y think 's ben helpful at work tooat their greyeand i would say like if, if it's something that happened and you'd think about it three weeks later. The onlything