Cognitive impathy is a vital part of having difficult conversations and conflict resolution. Instead of trying to imagine how someone else is feeling, we try to imagine ourselves in a future that is more like ther reality. In the book, where it's ike, for example, what's going on in ukraine right now, it is very hard for most people to imagine what this lived experience is like. We get a little better at it when we shift the details to our lives. I need to imagine that the state of california is being invaded by texas or whatever it isi.