Control Issues - Do You Feel Safe?

When i go into my control state, do i speak to others in a way that is degrading, belittling or condescending? Do i get angry at others when they don't behave in a certain way? Am i expecting others to act the way i want them to act so that i can feel good? I used to be very meticulous about my home. In those days, i believe i control issues. It took years to even become aware of what i was doing and how it affected my family. There's a difference in althy control and control issues. If you have any trama or feel like there's consistent sad is - seek out a licensed professional.