Is That a Thing? Is It a Relationship?

We all have a natural tendency when something hurts we point to it. And so that's a normal response to want to take care of ourselves or protect ourselves. Yet on the receiving and like we're talking, if it's described in terms of the other person which feels like we're going to want the person on the receiving end is going to want to defend. We're not even getting to what's going on really between us we start fighting about the fight.