I'm Good at This. You're Shining It on for Me

Sally Kohn: It takes some finesse to praise and validate that part of ourselves, even for us or other people. When a little kid is trying to prove to you how good they are at something that they feel unable to self validate around, that presenting,. that over compensation, that trying to get you to notice, is still sincere and vulnerable. Even when it's over compensating, just like a little kid. And we don't want to be seen as deficient. We don't wants to be less than.