We carry over the emotions and assumptions from our previous relationships. We start to make assumptions about ourselves based on these beliefs. Then, we'll spawn something called auto ic thoughts. This is where someone doesn't tex me back right away, oh, she doesn't care, or he doesn't care. That thought is immediate, it's severe and it's automatic. And then that emotion can get triggered, and all the thoughts that come with that emotion will now be applied to your current situation.