I Stop Talking, I Shut You Out

The best way to stop the argument is to not talk. I stop talking to protect myself, ok? We have good reasons for what we do. What they don't understand is ther in an intimate relationship, if i cut off emotionally and i shut down, i shut you out. That's just ecause that's the way you're wired. You can try and shut it down, or, you know, you can get violent. There's ther's a range there. But the bottom line is, what i just said isn't negotiable. Our emotional life is structured. Your nervous system is structured to avoid danger, to move to what will fulfil your needs to survive - love