The goal of this is to develop healhy relationships with your family, ok? But we have to understand what's going on in order to develop a healthy relationship with them. What they need to do is have empathy for your situation. So if you don't argue, you just articulate to them what they said. Just articulate it. You'll see there's like an empathic lurch in their brain. If you're attacking them, they can get defensive,. But if you're like just asking them questions and like asking them to confirm the idiocy that comes out of their mouth, they're going to get like, kind of confused andthe like.