Couples therapy can be used to repair relationships, says the author. The sooner you see a marriage and family therapist "the better always," she adds. Repair work is just sitting down with each other and having a mediator like me or like you guys who will help them talk through their issues. It's about prioritizing your relationship above all else for as long as the other partner needs it within reason because there are some ways people push too much information over into wanting more privacy.