Forgiveness goes, I acknowledge that my parents could have done better, but I'm going to let that go. Mercy just goes like, what is happening here? We're in God's dream. Because I think that the only way out is through. So when we look at our parents sucking it up and believe me, I'm talking about the Enneagram. I'm an Enneagram for split down the middle with a three, but four is love talking about their pain and moping. And all artists and weirdos. But Father Greg Boyle when he did this podcast said forgiveness is overrated. Give me mercy. He's feeling like life strategies for good living of earth