How to Meet a Guy Who's Already Arrived

Matthew says he was nowhere near the man he is today when he met his wife 12 years ago. She endured things in him that I look back on now and am like, whoa, that was not a part of my life then. Women are much better at having empathy and compassion for our shortcomings than we are for them. Men are trained to perceive it as weakness because other men will police us. For women, in many ways, it's a defense mechanism. They've had to gather together in community as a response to the trauma that has been inflicted on them. This is why women have face to face friendships and men have side to side friendships.