The Why We Are So Hard on Ourself

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The inner critic is the voice in our head telling us that we are worthless or shaming us. It's a manifestation of our ego, more specifically what Freud called our super ego. We tend to believe these negative thoughts and take them on board because the opinion that is with us,. the most in our lives is our own.

So often in life, we are our own worst enemies. The meanest and loudest voice in our head is our own. So why are we so hard on ourselves? In this episode we break down the psychological underpinnings behind our inner critic, from the proposed evolutionary role of negative self talk, to the influence of our upbringing including the distinction between conditional and unconditional positive regard, parental expectations and childhood bullying. We examine how social comparison and overthinking can contribute to a poor self perception but, also, how we can adopt the methods of radical self compassion and cognitive diffusion to silence that inner voice and be free from self judgement. Listen now!

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