Happiness After Having Kids

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Research shows that people are less happy after they have kids. So why does anybody do this? Well, happiness is not the measure of purposefulness or having a deeper life. I don't think people have kids because they think that it's going to gie a constant buzz of pleasure. Or if they do have kis for that reason, they'll quickly change to tipeofer riremen. This is not a pleasure technology,. but it gives you other things, other things of value.

We go to movies that make us cry, or scream, or gag. We poke at sores, eat spicy foods, immerse ourselves in hot baths, run marathons. Some of us even seek out pain and humiliation in sexual role-play. Why do we so often seek out physical pain and emotional turmoil? Where do these seemingly perverse appetites come from? In his latest book, The Sweet Spot: The Pleasures of Suffering and the Search for Meaning, Bloom aims to understand how people find meaning in their lives, and, moreover, to explore what he calls, “the sweet spot” — the proper balance between pleasure and suffering. As one of the world’s leading psychologists, drawing on groundbreaking findings from psychology and brain science, Bloom shows how the right kind of suffering sets the stage for enhanced pleasure.