Having Your Own Back Can Help You Control Your Relationships, Right?

When I have my own back and I can support myself and I can regulate my nervous system, I can come into a conversation as potentially triggering or activating in the nervous system. So then if your partner says, babe, I'm actually just, I don't want to have sex more than next times a week,. Like my libido is not about that, right? I'm not interested in that kind of sex. We get to have our own backs. And when we come into conversation with a partner or partners from that place, we can then ask them to co-regulate our nervous systems which means to help us ground together.