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So I don't mean to come down harsh, but that's what I've seen. So a lot of us have that behavior to rectify just in general. Okay. So the reason I bring that up is because if you're on the app because you're responding impulsively to feelings of loneliness, I encourage you to explore that. But what I encourage clients to do is to give yourself a certain window. So say something like, okay, for two weeks, I'm going to really commit and I'm going to focus on building a little bit of a digital relationship with the women who seem the most promising who I connect with the most instead of being overwhelmed by like 25 different options. I'm going to lean into the woman who I feel like we have compatibility who are kind of like making me laugh, who seem like they'd be a good time. Those are the connection I'm going to prioritize so I don't feel overwhelmed. And then I'm going to commit to trying to build something intentionally with them, having some exchanges, humanizing the experience as much as possible, which reduces any anxiety you might feel about meeting up in real life. So you want to leverage features like, you know, using voice notes or video or sending pictures because it humanizes things and makes you more memorable. And it helps to kind of personalize and humanize the experience that way over time after you've built some kind of like familiarity a little bit and you feel, you know, a sense of safety, then getting together in person is the next natural step. There's research actually that suggests that when you keep a relationship online, the overall satisfaction decreases. So you want to get it offline as soon as possible. Now obviously like the caveat here is you need to feel safe and it needs to be appropriate. But as soon as possible, you should be working toward like, Hey, let's get together in real life. I think this is enough to just to get you started, right? To give you that confidence boost and give you some tangibles to work with. And this episode is clearly going over five minutes. Now, are you ready for this announcement? My Bumble BFF girl is even if you're not on Bumble BFF, I have a big announcement for you and it's time sensitive. This weekend, there's an opportunity for you to get together in real life. Bumble is hosting a Bumble BFF Friendsgiving event on Sunday, November 20th in New York City. And they have asked me to host the event. I hope to meet some of you in real life. I hope that this is an opportunity for you to either come solo and make some connections. I'll be your wing woman. So you don't have to worry about it being awkward. Or if you're an extrovert like me, you enjoy talking to people, bring your friends. So the details are on my Instagram at Daniel by Eric Jackson, but I'm really hoping to see you over there. And if you're not in New York City, I'm sure there's probably an event that is being planned that's coming to you soon. So stay tuned to that right here on the friend forward podcast. And until then, you know that I'll be right here rooting for you always on your ongoing journey toward better female friendships. See you soon.