Can Angry Sex Be Healthy? Rage, Repair & the Psychology of the "Hot F*ck"
The Partnership Podcast
Intro
This chapter explores the transformation of anger into sexual desire during a heated argument. The speakers recount a charged moment of physical connection, highlighting the intensity and excitement of their emotions.
“So, we’re on the elevator—and we’re angry.”
In this raw and revealing follow-up to last week’s episode, Lauren picks up right where they left off: the hotel hallway tension, the slammed door, and the unforgettable, rage-fueled sex that followed. Clothes were ripped off, bodies thrown against walls, and a deep desire to be chosen and wanted took over.
Lauren and Trey reflect on the erotic electricity of that night—what made it so charged, why they’ve never had sex like that before, and how it left them both breathless… and then laughing when Trey had to wear Lauren’s sweatshirt home after the fire alarm went off. (Yes, really.)
But this episode isn’t just a sex story. They unpack the difference between hot and healthy. They name the ingredients that made that encounter intense and why they’ve agreed not to repeat it. Together, they explore the psychology of angry sex, make-up sex, and what happens when arousal is driven by disconnection instead of desire.
They then shift into what’s coming next: their plans for an upcoming Manhattan rendezvous—one that blends familiarity and mystery—and Lauren’s exciting speaking gig at Soho House. She opens up about her growth, the mantra she's holding—"I am good enough"—and how she’s preparing to do Live Sex & Relationship Coaching on stage.
Trey shares his excitement and support for Lauren’s so-called “National Tour,” and they talk about what it means to keep showing up for each other, especially when the stakes are high.
This conversation blends sexual healing, relationship advice, and emotional intimacy, offering tools for couples who want to better understand the intersection of sex and conflict. Whether you're curious about sex after a fight, make-up intimacy, or how communication can turn rage into repair, this episode delivers insights you won’t hear in couples therapy or your group chat.
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About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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