What Is Memory Important and How Do We Engage Memory?

I was just reading a book by James Ellis and he was talking about the kind of ruse of therapy. He said if therapists were honest they would have to tell you that it's not actually the wound that is the most painful, it's the defenses that we've built in order to deal with the wound that are more painful. And often times we just want to kind of cure the defense and say oh well I'm just not going to overeat anymore or I'll learn how to exercise. We're at the end of January when we're taping this. 99% of you who made decisions January 1st to do something different in your life have already failed.